When we embrace the complexity of humans, we give ourselves permission to be present and open, instead of trying to put singular labels on ourselves, our emotions, and others we encounter.
So Harden the Fuck Up, and Open the Fuck Up.
Be tough, be vulnerable, work hard, rest hard, feel pain, feel joy.
When we keep the majority of our focus and energy in one area, we make progress.
If we keep that energy there for a significant amount of time, we can start to gain tons of momentum, and really solidify things.
This reigns true in life, in training, and in coaching.
Facing fears and discomfort, willingly and meaningfully, is the key to endless possibility.
Every event in life, is an opportunity for growth.
That, often constant, inner voice telling us we’re not qualified, can help fuel our desire to learn, to be open minded, to explore, to wonder, to listen, and in inquire.
In any case, stress should be added when and how makes most sense for the individual learning and the intention of the lesson.
Unregulated stress for the sake of stress, is significantly less efficient in building resiliency in our experience.
Hoping or planning to simply disengage is different from training to have the skills to disengage in the event that they were able to get close to start with.
There are no fast and easy shortcuts when it comes to violence.
To genuinely learn, we have to work at meaningful intensity to allow ourselves and our students to truly process and own the positions.